I’ve Been Dating!

Grow a set of BALLS!

Grow a set of BALLS!

OK….this is a bit of a sensitive subject, a bit ranty and if you are finicky about language…consider this your warning.

I have openly shared myself on this blog and I make no effort to hide the fact that I am a plus size curvy girl. I love my curves and so far in the work I have done, my hips and my bootie ain’t going nowhere and I am proud of that! I am learning to love myself no matter the size, part of that is putting yourself out into the dating world. I have never had any problem meeting men. I have been asked out in coffee shops, grocery stores and other various venues. I have been on some really great dates and some really horrible dates, as have most women.

Before any date comes the pep talk of how beautiful I am, how he has already seen me, he is well aware of what I look like and I got this, so me and my curves go out on dates. Here is what I have discovered in the countless dates I have been on. Guys….love a curvy girl with meat on her bones in the bedroom or the comfort of their apartment, but out in public all they want is the woman who’s ass looks good in a pair of LuLu’s.

I have been seeing this one guy in particular for a few weeks. He happens to be a  nutritionist and in the process of becoming a personal trainer. I even remember having the thought “Wow, I totally judged a book by it’s cover because I thought guys like him only dated other perfectly fit human beings.” My bad. It shocked both of us how well we hit it off. Our days were filled with countless text messages, phone calls and long conversations getting to know one another. I knew he was making me twitter pated because I was not telling any of my friends about him, this is my tell-tale sign for, I like him.  Then I realized we had only been out in public together once, our first date.  So, I did what I feel any normal girl would do, I asked to meet out in public somewhere and was met with a “no” or a “it’s late let’s just hang at your place or mine.” When I began to gently press the issue I was met with the text in the photo.

I cried for about a day and then I began to think about it. What a M*TH#RF*CK!NG PU&&Y! So…for all those guys out there that prefer a curvy girl with meat on her bones but keep her hidden because you are embarrassed about what your friends or society might think… grow a set of BALLS! You don’t deserve her in the first place!

Every woman, no matter her size, shape, color, condition, race, age, and any other distinguishing factor, deserves to be treated with the same care and respect that she is treating you with. If you are ashamed or worried about what your friends think then you don’t deserve her. I pray she is smart enough to find someone man enough to treat her like the queen she is. As for the douche in this text…thank you for teaching me this lesson.

To punctuate my rant I found this amazing post on YouTube, enjoy!

One thought on “I’ve Been Dating!

  1. You are not an object for him to cart around to “impress” strangers and potential business clients that do not care about you or him. It pains me to read blogs like yours because after being through the cycle of abuse I am over what men or women for that matter think about my weight because I know for a fact it, If it isn’t your weight, it would be something else and who wants to date, marry or befriend someone who will not be there for you when you age or gain weight? Look at how the Internet criticizes beautiful, healthy bodies on celebrities? Good luck to you and stay healthy.

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